Top Tips For Getting Into Bondage For Beginners

Bondage is a broad church, and chances are many people have tried some form of bondage play without even realising it.

The all-important ‘B’ In BDSM (Bondage, Domination/Discipline, Sadism/Submission and Masochism) can mean a mix of different acts depending on the couple involved, from pinning someone’s hands down during sex to full-on elaborate rope bondage and using a bondage kit.

It is an incredibly intense way to explore someone’s body, lusts and desires, but like almost anything related to sex, it is best to start slowly and ease into it. Here are some top tips for getting into bondage.

Communication And Consent Are The Most Important Part

Bondage can involve restrained movement, pain and exceptionally intense feelings, and before you try any of that out, it is vital that both you and your partner are okay with what is going to happen.

For people who regularly practise BDSM, formal contracts are drafted up to establish what the boundaries are, safe words and the nature of what the dynamic between the two people involved will be.

Communicate and be ready to stop the second they utter a safe word or seem to not be enjoying themselves.

One At A Time

Bondage play can involve overstimulation and extreme sensations, but when you are just starting this can sometimes be a discomforting experience. Start with restraining only one part of the body, like an arm or an ankle, and then gradually build up based on what they are comfortable with.

As well as this, check to make sure they are not feeling numb. Being tied too tightly can be painful and take people out of the moment.

Take It Slowly And Avoid Pain

One of the most aggravating aspects of depictions of bondage is that they often depict pain, a complete loss of control and fear in the submissive when that is not always an inherent part of bondage.

It should feel thrilling, exciting and incredibly pleasurable and if pain is the only aspect you can focus on, something is wrong.