A Beginner’s Guide To Choosing A Dildo

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Sex toys have come a long way since the earliest incarnations of the phallic-shaped toys used by ancient civilisations. Modern dildos can inflate, deflate, strap on, glow in the dark, and even stick to the tiles in the shower.

The list of available shapes and sizes and features is endless, and it’s no wonder they remain one of the most popular sex toys out there. But for the uninitiated, it can be daunting to browse a website to see such a nearly infinite range. What do they do? What size is best? How do I look after it? Don’t worry, we have a guide for dildo shopping!

 

How big should your dildo be?

The first and most important consideration is size, and while the cliché of ‘big is best’ echos in the mind, it doesn’t hold true for sex toys - or penises!

Start modestly, and turn your attention to the balance between girth and length. Keep in mind that the G-spot is located just a few inches inside the vagina, so you don’t need a whopping 12-inch monster to reach it.

Many people will say that girth is more important than length, but that is not a universal truth. If you enjoy the sensation of being stretched or want a bit of a challenge, then something grittier might be a good idea, but for your first dildo, something slimline to moderate is probably best.

 

What's the best material for a dildo?

Dildos can be made out of metal, glass, silicone, wood, and ceramics, and the choice of material can have an impact on your experience. However, the materials can also pose some safety questions.

Avoid anything that is labelled as being jelly or gel, as tests have shown these toys can contain high levels of phthalates, which can then leak into the body.

PVC, latex, and TPE/TPR will not leak toxic materials into the body, but their porous nature means that they can harbour bacteria, and you will never get them 100 per cent clean, so they are best avoided, or used with a condom.

The best option is 100 per cent silicone. It is completely body-safe, non-porous, and easy to sterilise and lasts forever. To experience other sensations, go for borosilicate glass and stainless steel.

 

Can a dildo make you orgasm?

Vibrators are marketed on their ability to make you orgasm, but dildos are a little more opaque on the effect they can have on the user. Some sex toy users love dildos for the feeling of penetration, while others use one for G-spot stimulation, female ejaculation, or P-spot stimulation for men.

Research varies, but around 60 to 90 per cent of people with vulvas are unable to orgasm from just penetration and need additional clitoral stimulation. Some people can orgasm from a dildo, but whichever category you find yourself in, it’s all fine and normal.

 

Do I need to use lube with a dildo?

Always, always, always! It is more important with dildos because the harder materials can be quite rigid if not properly lubricated and could be rather painful. Use lots of lube to make it a smoother and more fun experience!

 

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