How To Relieve Stress About Sex
Sex is meant to be one of the most enjoyable parts of being with another person, and exploring each other’s bodies and forming an orgasmic connection helps to wipe away all of those worries and anxieties we have in everyday life.
So why are so many people stressed about sex?
According to a study undertaken by wellness app Ferly, 71 per cent of the 20,000 women they surveyed said they felt stressed about their sex lives, and 30 per cent went as far as to say they felt anxious before, during or after they have sex.
When we feel stressed, and many of us have felt stressed over the past two years, it can be a real turn-off for us, but relieving stress is about understanding its causes, and whilst everyone is unique, there are several common reasons why people are stressed about sex sometimes.
Here are some ways to help understand and combat stress and help you have the sex life you deserve.
Get To Know Yourself
Everyone is unique, and everyone’s experience with sex is different. Understanding what makes you in particular tick is essential to having the mindblowing nights you deserve.
The better you know your body, and what feelings, sensations and thoughts you have, the better you can share that with someone else.
If you do not have one already, ordering a vibrator from a sex toy shop can help you explore and understand your erogenous zones and how your body physically reacts to different touches and stimuli.
Find ways to relieve tension and stress in your body, and not only can it help you feel less stressed in other parts of your life, but also allow you to express your wants and desires to your partner.
There are so many misconceptions, misconstructions and outright lies about sex that we subconsciously absorb during our lives as the world around us paints an idea of how our bodies and our pleasure “should” look and feel like.
That idea is truly ridiculous, of course, but unpicking all of these expectations is essential, and ultimately what matters is that you feel happy and comfortable in yourself, have a deep connection to those closest to you, and can feel amazingly good on your own terms.
Masturbation, fantasies, having sex are all important parts of our sexual, mental and physical wellbeing, and recognising this normalises what is often ludicrously seen as taboo.
Do not be hard on yourself for trying to navigate all of this.
Confide And Communicate
There is an old saying that a problem shared is a problem halved, and this is very true when it comes to nerves and anxiety.
Once you know what you want out of sex and what you enjoy, communicating it with your partner will not only ensure that they know how to make you feel amazing but also create a closer connection between you two.
Intimacy is about sharing, openness, and feeling comfortable being with someone when you are literally and figuratively naked around them.
This can be very scary, so it can be easier to talk to a partner or a close friend and talk more generally about pleasure and what “good sex” actually means to each of you, and unpack our feelings and subconscious ideas.