What Is The Orgasm Gap And What Can You Do About It?

It is a widely reported fact that men find it much easier than women to orgasm during sexual intercourse. According to a 2014 study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, during heterosexual sex, women orgasm 63% of the time with their regular partner, compared with 85% of men.

This discrepancy has been explained away over the years, with the blame being placed on ‘complicated’ female anatomy, or women’s ‘complex emotions’ around sex. However, in 2021, we know that women are just as capable of experiencing pleasure as men. We also know that there are a few ways to make it much easier for women to hit the big O!

Of course, an orgasm doesn’t have to be the end goal of sex, and it can be an enjoyable and sensual experience whatever happens. However, for many women, true satisfaction cannot be achieved through penetration alone.

This is because the clitoris is the female organ which is the main source of sexual pleasure. It is thought to contain around 8,000 nerve endings, which is twice as many as the penis. Only the tip of the clitoris is visible, located towards the front of the vulva. A large part of it is internal, a fact that wasn’t discovered until 1998!

For many women, external stimulation of the clitoris is the only way they can become fully aroused. If you feel comfortable, talk to your partner, and show them how you like to be touched. Some people find that experimenting with different sexual positions makes it easier for them to orgasm.

Experimenting with sex toys, such as a vibrating love egg, is another brilliant way to learn about your body and discover what really turns up the intensity. Above all, remember that everyone’s body is slightly different, and there is no right or wrong way to go about discovering your bliss. The important thing is to relax and have fun!