Top Tips To Close The Pleasure Gap In Your Relationship

The best relationships are equal. We give as much as we get, and the more pleasure we give to someone else, the more pleasure we receive in return.

However, according to research undertaken by the Sexual Health Is Wealth campaign, this is not always the case, with 18 per cent of women orgasming after sex despite 43 per cent of men thinking they do.

With that in mind, here are some top tips to close the gap in pleasure in your relationship.

Communicate And Listen

One of the most important parts of sex is communication, and yet according to the same study, only 35 per cent of women who voiced their preferences found that it changed their sex lives for the better.

This highlights that not only is it important to tell your partner what your needs are at a time and place that you feel most comfortable with, but it is also important to ensure they are listened to.

It is not always easy to convey what you want, so if you need to buy a vibrator and show your partner what you want them to do, that can help as well.

It’s Not All About Penetration

Sex is a huge, broad spectrum that ranges from deep passionate kisses to pinning each other down and climaxing together, and when aiming to close the pleasure gap, it is important to focus on more than just penetration.

Only 17 per cent of women actually orgasm from penetration, so use your fingers, use toys, use your tongue and focus on foreplay not as the prelude to sex but as part of it.

Slow Down

Related to the previous point, sex does not have to be at breakneck speed, and does not need to necessarily be rough unless that is what you both want, but can instead be a slow, gentle build-up to orgasm.

Rushing through it means you can miss some of what makes the experience so special.