Tips For Watching Porn With Your Partner For The First Time

There was a time when the vast majority of porn was made for men to use alone, but times and changing, and now there’s a huge variety of material out there to suit all tastes. But what about watching porn or sharing other types of erotic media with your partner? For some, this is a natural part of their sex lives, but for many couples it’s still a tricky topic.

Sometimes, one partner may be curious to experiment with using erotica as part of a couple, but they can feel inhibited about mentioning their desires. No one likes to be judged for their tastes or to set themselves up for comparison when it comes to sex, unless you are particularly self assured and confident.

There may be the danger of going too far the other way; suddenly introducing porn with no prior discussion. This risks creating a situation whereby one partner is definitely not into the material, while the other is very turned on. To avoid such a rift, the best approach is to get comfortable with talking about sex with your partner in the first place.

This might sound obvious, but it is surprising how many couples don’t talk about sex very much at all. If this rings true, try to mention casually what turns you on when you are in a relaxed moment together, maybe taking your cue from a sex scene in a movie or TV show. Ask leading questions so that your partner can respond with their own thoughts.

Alternatively, just find a moment in the day to let your partner know how much of a turn on you find them, and anything that you particularly enjoy in bed. Remember never to make veiled complaints or criticisms; keep it light and positive or risk destroying your sexual chemistry forever!

Once you are comfortable talking about your sex life, use this as a starting point to ask how your partner feels about watching porn, rather than dropping the subject on them out of the blue. Once the conversation has opened up, talk through what types of porn you both find a turn on, and what either partner is most definitely not into.

Respect your partner’s tastes, but make sure that you both enjoy and are comfortable with the material. There was a time when porn was overwhelmingly aimed at men, and many women found it off putting or intimidating. 

However there is now a far broader approach to porn and there is plenty of ethically produced material, much of it made by women with women’s needs in mind. You can also be sure that the actors in this type of material are not being exploited, but are fully consenting and are protected with legal rights around pay, conditions, health check ups, and so on. 

Some women may not enjoy watching porn, but love to listen to erotic stories. This can be a way of unlocking the sexual imagination and give you the confidence to experiment with sex and share your thoughts and desires with others.

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